Tensions often not the result of some of them are not pretty. They are often caused by stress and tension caused by the proximity of external factors. However, there are some basic approach to the relationship you have to work. Yes, to work with you in a relationship as you work in customer relations. You have to actively work on having good relationships and do not take them for granted.

So I break the discussion into two areas,

1) Outside factors that create tensions and
2) internal relations strategy.

While often the number one most important factor, many people have to work with both, especially if the relationship strained considerably.

Many relationships are severely strained by factors outside or what I call the authorities. No matter how hard you work on improving your relationship with someone, this kind of stress between you and eventually creep back in. That's why you need to first address the root causes of deformation. It can:

a. Your job (or lack thereof)
b. aging parents or difficult
c. decrease in libido
d. finance
e. conflict on children
F. disease
Mr inattention

The list is almost endless. So what can you do?

1. First, you need to get together and discuss this issue in such a way as to agree that a factor external cause. It is much easier than playing blame game. This is best done in a calm atmosphere, without the usual interruptions - no kids, television, telephone, etc.

2. Then agree on a game plan for solving the problem. Create a detailed (written) plan with both of you. Your plan should be realistic, have short-term goals, activities for each goal and who will be responsible.

3. Then go out and work your plan and make it happen. You might even bring the whole family. Teamwork. Think about it, there are countless examples of teams (sports, business and military), in which some people do not get along, but when they passionately strive toward a common goal, then everything changes.

4. Second, and at the same time, you should work on that a good relationship. It can not, what you say, as long as you say it. Here are a few keys.

* Communicate with other people. Screaming they do not have a constructive dialogue. Discuss things that bother you in a positive way. Say, "It would be great if you do X, not Y", as opposed to "I hate the way you X." Before you make a comment or a "recommendation", think about these issues with your loved ones may have on your compliance with the request. Use the word "we" a lot. If your significant other needs to shed pounds, it is likely that both of you are doing. You can say, "What would you think if we changed our daily eating habits so that we can look and feel more like we did when we were younger?"

* Think before you open your mouth. It's a little hard to suck in stupid words back, as if throwing a man. It is difficult to undo.

* Spend more time together, doing things, everyone wanted to do. It may be necessary to remove some things that you spend too much time to execute. Your child may not really need to do, soccer, karate, scouts, sports, piano and tennis. Tell them that you need more time with other parents, so that you fight less, and you all have fun together. Maybe your obligations voluntarily become too heavy. Think about it.

Do not blurt out harsh criticism. Think about what you say and just as importantly, when to say it. Timing can be everything. Statements like "You look like a _____ in that setting," will get you nowhere. But, "You know that dress or suit does not show his best asset," can be very fun and positive reinforcement of desired behavior.

In general, remember the two keys is much less stress in your relationship.

First, find and eliminate the root causes of problems and challenges together.

Then work in your relationship! I know people who want to have a relationship, but I was so focused on their careers, they do not want to spend the time to find and maintain relationships. What will happen to them if they lose their jobs? Your personality should be more than your professional title. Your life should be about performance in all areas.

We need a relationship with their give and take to sustain us through life.

Go to him and have fun.