Almost everyone had lived through a tough breakup. And everyone who has had such an experience can tell that a loss of a relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can endure. You are lost and confused. Your habitual way of life has changed. You can’t get used to a thought that someone you loved is no longer yours to love. You are depressed and it seems that you don’t want absolutely anything.

Especially new relations.

Everyone has personal reaction to a breakup. Somebody recovers quite quickly, others need some time to come back to life. What’s really important is not to withdraw into yourself. Try to lead your usual way of life. If you have used to go to the cinema every Friday night with your ex, take your friend and go to the pictures. Visit your old good fellows not to feel lonely on the weekend. They sure will be happy to see you again. You should fill your life with bright and exciting moments so you don’t have time for sad thoughts. Talk to your close friends, call your relatives to feel that there are people who care and love you.
“Loss rituals” such as writing a farewell letter (which you may or may not choose to send), returning belongings, or boxing up photos, letters and other reminders of the relationship may help in the process of letting go.

Make new friends and meet new people. You don’t have to start a new relationship right away. Don’t force hand, flirt, go on dates. Do you remember how easy it was before you started a serious relation? Your goal is not to find a new partner but to feel how wonderful and exiting the life can be.

Ask your friends to introduce you to somebody single. If you don’t become a couple probably you get a new friend who can stand by your side at a pinch. It’s always easier to pass through an hour of need when you have somebody to talk to and to give an advice. But try not to stuck on the talks about your ex. Concentrate on what you have rather than what you've lost.

Spend time with people of the opposite sex. You need it to understand that not all men (or women) are black hearts and shifty-eyed. A hard breakup can make you suspicious and leery. The thing is that breakups happen because the two simply can't find happiness together. Each of them can be a great person. But if you plus him or her do not add up to both of you being happy, the equation isn't meant to be. For your own sake, as well as theirs, let go and move on - allowing them to do the same. The man or woman of your dreams may be just around the corner waiting for you. If you don't move on, you'll never find them!

One more thing to hold you up is keeping yourself busy. Don’t sit and think about your past. It’s better to work a few extra hours or read a new interesting book. There are a lot of great authors, go to the bookstore and choose a new novel. You’ll see how much pleasure you can get just reading about somebody’s lives and adventures.

Make a daily schedule. Structuring your time and having a schedule for the day can be helpful in lessening distress and preoccupation with your ex-partner. Try to redirect your mental energy to accomplishing projects and tasks, such as academic work, which can boost feelings of control and competence.

And remember, love will come again. But if you're looking back you can miss it! Look forward, wear your best smile, and concentrate on getting the most from life. This sort of mentality and lifestyle will attract the sort of person you need in your life. He or she is out there waiting for you, maybe even going through what you're going through right now. The sooner you move on, the sooner you'll find real, lasting love.